Six Things You Can Do To Find Love in 2017
Often, people think that they have to learn how to master love, master the dating games, and join all sorts of online dating sites to find their soulmate. In reality, who you are before you ever fall in love says much more about how your next relationship will work out. You might be surprised to learn that most of the work of creating true love in your life is actually done before you ever meet “the one.”
1. You have to find yourself before you can find your soulmate.
You must get to know yourself, accept yourself, take time to heal past wounds, and explore and develop new parts of yourself. Learn to feel content and loved without having someone by your side. Learn to be whole on your own, start to work on that; your life will change.
2. Live the life that you want to live.
Once you start to discover more about yourself and to follow your own path, you will start to live a life that is meaningful to you. You will no longer be following someone elses' rules and ideas about what you should do. Doing what is right for you means you will be in places, jobs, and near people that are aligned with your life path, your faith, and with you. So you will have a much better chance of meeting your soul mate, because your soul mate will also be connected to your life path.
3. Stop trying to appeal to an imagined, potential partner.
A side effect of leading the life you choose is that you automatically become more attractive. You become more real, authentic, substantial, valuable, passionate, happy, and present. This makes you more beautiful in a natural and effortless way, and it will also make you attractive to your soul mate. Whereas when you try to make yourself attractive in order to find someone, you alter the way you behave and present yourself so that if your soul mate were to show up, he or she might not even recognize you. Be yourself; your interests, your style, your weight, your moods, etc. Everyone picks up on authenticity, so is attractive to it.
4. Engage with life; accept the gifts and invitations that are offered to you.
In the wise words of our own Maggie (words that I, Tatum, have never forgotten), “Once you’re single, you need to start saying yes more. If someone invites you to hike or go to happy hour, say yes even if you feel like climbing into bed at 6pm. The more you say yes, the more you will receive an invitation. If you consistently say no, sooner or later people will stop reaching out”. Maggie is right; no matter the activity or the intimidation level, you have to put yourself out there.
5. When you meet someone, don’t hurry things; allow the relationship to unfold.
This is why online dating (such as Tinder, Bumble, and Match) has such a fast turnover rate! When you meet someone you have a good connection with, allow that connection to develop and grow. If the person is a soul mate, he or she will also be into you, so if you both pay genuine attention to each other then something will develop. There is no need to play games or to try particular seduction techniques or to achieve milestones by a particular time. A successful long-term relationship is not a game.
6. Get over your fear of rejection.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. The fear of rejection may prevent you from finding your love. Getting rejected by a man isn’t the end of the world, you simply were not meant for each other. It happens to everyone. Pick your head and keep moving forward, do not dwell on that one single negative dating experience.
The year 2017 is your year to find yourself, love yourself and love the ones around you. Stay positive, stay hopeful and everything will workout to your benefit. And always remember, your other half is out there praying that 2017 is their year to find you.
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